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Making a long distance relationship work
by Cristal A. Pinnix
Exchange Staff
With summer and graduation soon approaching those who have been in relationships for a long time or for even a short time may be thinking about pursuing a long distance relationship (LDR).
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost four years and have had to deal with the LDR thing numerous times especially during vacation time, he lives in NJ and I live in Texas and I spent last semester in Washington, DC. So this week I offer you some advice from my own experience and others who have been in long distance relationships before.
Things to do:
1) Communicate. The most important thing in any relationship whether its long distance or not is establishing an effective channel of communication. This means calling each other. There are also other ways of communicating like instant messenger, emails, VOIP phone, webcam or even writing letters. Find a form that is comfortable and easily accessible for both of you.
2) Visit. You should plan to see each other. This will help you and your partner to catch up with each other over the things that you cannot do while you’re apart. Also the anticipation of seeing each other again will always give you the excitement, hope and as well as eliminating some of the lonely feelings associated with your LDR.
3) Surprise each other. Send cards, flowers, and special gifts to each other. E-cards are free to use and writing a special message can make a person’s day. Use your imagination the possibilities are endless.
4) Send videos and photos. Keep a record of those special occasions or interesting moments from your time apart. Your partner will appreciate being kept in the loop, it helps to be able to participate in some way in your life.
Following some or even all of the above tips should help in keeping any long distant relationship possible. There are also a few things that you shouldn’t do that could potentially dismantle any chance of making a long distance relationship work.
1) Don’t settle for a temporary replacement. Letting a third party into your relationship to replace your significant other psychically is only setting up your LDR for disaster it breaks the mutual trust and agreement that the two of you have made to each other.
2) Don’t take your relationship lightly. A long distance relationship is just as important as a normal relationship and your partner has a right to be treated fairly.The absence of your partner does not give you the license to dictate and manipulate the relationship. You have to remember that, your partner has their own right to participate in any decision making toward the well being of the relationship.
3) Don’t be suspicious. In order to have a successful long distance relationship you need to learn to trust your partner. A single suspicion can tear your relationship apart. This is easier said than done. Try not to create unnecessary stress in you relationship.
Remember a long distance
relationship takes time and dedication and good luck this summer with
maintaining old relationships.
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